Many of you are in a brand new class, and you may be feeling a little out of place without friends. So, what can you do to get out of your shell and make more friends? Check out some of the tips we have for you.
1. We all get nervous.
Most people are more scared than you are. You may think they are cool and calm, but they are just as scared as you are. Just smile and relax.
2. Irritating habits
The person with the irritating habit is usually the LAST to know. Talk to a friend you really trust, and who will not deliberately say hurtful things.
Work on the areas your friend has pointed out.
Some questions to ask your friends to help you be more self-aware of any irritating habits you may have:
- “Do I talk too much?”
- “Do I complain too much?”
- “Does my breath smell?”
- “Do I always use too much offensive language?”
- “Am I frequently late?”“Do I come across as bossy?”“Do I gossip too much?”
3. Like yourself first
Some people think that if they can just find some people to like them, they will be happy. WRONG! When you are miserable, you will only attract people who have big problems.
4. Avoid arguments
Don’t get into arguments with the attention seekers and fighters. You don’t have to join them. We can’t please people all the time, so just do better things with your time.
5. Keep your limits
You can depend on your friends, but there are limits. Don’t think you can keep borrowing pens and foolscap paper or even homework from your friend all the time.
At the same time, being close to people is no excuse to insult them. Let’s beware of offending each other.
Adapted from Making Friends: A Guide To Getting Along With People by Andrew Matthews